I prayed for years to lose weight. I believed the Neiman Marcus lie. You know, anorexic is attractive? I grew up this way. My grandmother worked in the fashion industry for most of her adult life and she was anorexic. My mother was anorexic in her younger days, but later maintained a normal weight.
It is not lie that we see this barrage of images from magazines, social media, television and online media every day. What passes as womanhood has become so distorted that we struggle to protect our children from this almost homosexual idea of how women should look. Skinny to the point of being flat-chested and emaciated is not how God created women.
In my family, anorexic was normal.
This old photo, circa 1947, is my mother with her parents. My Grandmother is the fashionista on the right. They were young, but she is far too thin in this photo.If your thighs or your stomach became too heavy, you were criticized for not watching your weight more carefully. If you got above a size 10, you were downright fat. So, as you can imagine, I maintained an excessively thin figure until God stopped answering my prayers to lose weight.
For the first time in my life, at about the age of 46, I gained 30 pounds in one month. I was distressed. I mean, I just knew something was seriously wrong. All of a sudden, I could not lose one single pound. I could not stop eating a meal, or munch on raisins and nuts to lose a few pounds.
I checked my thyroid and went through a series of searches to find out what the problem was. I even blamed peri-menapause. However, there was just no physical reason why I could not lose weight.
This is me (the skinny one) in college, probably a size 5. My aunt is the healthy one in the photo, who missed the skinny memo, and still looks gorgeous after 7 kids! Even at my age, I was too thin.
The problem was, I was anorexic.
And I didn’t realize it. I had been thin for years, so gaining weight overnight like that sent me into a funk. I just did not understand how thin I was.
I thought anorexic was skin and bones (like I wasn’t almost that way anyway). I was well below my weight and I guess everyone long gave up thinking otherwise. Or, they themselves carried this professional modeling idea of losing weight. Even when I gained 30 pounds, I was not overweight, so let that sink in.
Don’t get me wrong, I ate. But, I starved myself until I reached my crazy idea of my optimal weight, then ate again. I looked great in my clothes, or at least I thought I did. At one point, I resorted to popcorn dinners and supplements to boost my body’s nutrition. But, that is when God put a stop to my weight loss.
God said enough.
It took me a while to realize this was His plan. At first, I remained completely confused as to why I kept gaining weight. When nothing seemed to work, I changed my work out. And I went up a whole size. I was mad. How could God do this to me? I mean, didn’t He see that I wanted to stay thin?
But, you know, it was then that something shifted inside me. I realized that I gained muscle instead of fat in that weight shift. I hadn’t changed my diet and I wasn’t eating a bunch of junk food. Unable to change my size, I gave in to the idea that God wanted me this way.
I ate more carbs, kept up my fruit and veggies, and still ate meat. I even added wheat back into my diet. I made sure I either took a probiotic or ate plenty of homemade yogurt. Slowly my body changed into a leaner large size. Look at my photo. I am not overweight or unhealthy–I am fit.
I only work out 2-3 times a week.
I work out for about 35 minutes each time, riding a fitness bike and using a few small weights. I am healthy and strong. I am probably not a Neiman Marcus clothes model. 😉 I never will be, and honestly, I don’t want to be. Modeling was never on my radar anyway.
As women we don’t need to work out for hours a day. We need to eat right, take a probiotic, maybe take a few supplements (depending on your health and age) and moderately work out. Some women are more active than I am, but I think most of us are active enough as Moms to justify a moderate work out schedule like this.
If you aren’t fat, you probably don’t need to lose weight.
You just may need to put fitness and exercise on your priority list. You may need me to say this. I spent half of my life trying to stay thin and never be fat. I didn’t hold back on pregnancy, but when it was all over and done with, I lost my baby weight. Honestly, I should have kept my “baby weight” on.
How much you weigh isn’t about the scale or what size you are. Stop getting on the scale and work on your health. Exercise until your tone is firm and keep healthy and fit. Eat the right foods and try not to cut out meals, unless you just have to. I went from a size 10 (even then my ribs showed), post baby, to a size 16. I have tons of muscle.
Trust me I screamed loud and hard when I gained weight. But, not one person thinks I am fat (except me on a bad day). I want to the be the weight God intended me to be and most of all, I just want to be happy. If starving myself on popcorn or some other food means losing weight and other problems along with it, then I choose my big girl size.
My apologies to Neiman Marcus, but they need to change their ideas of what a woman should look like.
Be who God created you to be.
We all fluctuate in our sizes throughout our life. But, as women, we don’t need men in our lives who think that women have to be like magazine models. Honestly, God did not create females to be this way, or to even look like men. He made us to be shapely and attractive for our husbands. God created them man and woman. He also created us to bear children and skinny unhealthy women cannot do that (at least not very well)
So, if you just took hold of the idea that thin is beautiful, then I pray for God to make you shapely! I pray He blesses you with a husband that appreciates you as a woman, and that He blesses you with children. I pray that you become the woman He has created you to be—from the inside out. I also pray blessings on your sons and daughters that they see the truth of God’s view of girls and women.
After all, we are living in a society that is stealing our daughters and younger women into this false idea that womanhood means no different from man. We need to stand up and support them, so that they can bear future generations of children and show our culture what it means to be a real women.